Gone Too Soon? Well. . . maybe.
I was grave hopping on the Gone Too Soon website the other day.
That might strike you as a somewhat morbid thing to do, but I was merely curious I assure you.
I can't quite explain why. . .although I suspect it had something to do with turning 49 the other day and the fact that I'm now contemplating my own mortality along with my navel.
One of the obits that caught my eye was that of Doris Gibson, who died in September 2006. . . aged 85.
It popped up at the top of the list after a relative added a new message wishing the dearly departed old dear a happy new year.
Now, I'm sure Doris was a lovely woman who continues to be greatly missed by all who knew her.
But was she really 'gone too soon'? Call me picky, but isn't 85 a decent innings? After a little more surfing amongst the stiffs I soon discovered Doris wasn't an isolated entry.
There was Thomas Mooney, who died aged 84, and Joyce Brown, who pegged it at 80.
So I got to thinking. . . perhaps the people behind the Gone Too Soon website should launch a sister site? Something like Gone At Roughly The Right Time.
There could even be a third site for thoroughly awful individuals (rapists, murderers etc) who managed to live to a ripe old age, which could be called Didn't Go Soon Enough.
It would be a sure fire winner, don't you think?
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Your cheap humour is simply disgusting...for all those that have lost loved ones recent and past, gone too soon sums it up quite nicely. I notice you do work for the sun....you seem to have been labeled and placed in the right compartment!!!
well i cannot express what i feel what an arseole to just go through these personnel messages of love and grief...i lost my son 28 years of age why why why why
your pathetic...!
Obviously you are hard up for something to write about so you thought you'd go for cheap nasty laughs - how spiteful. That site offers so much to people like myself who have lost someone dear.
One day you might get a heart but until then shut you ignorant trap!
ISorry, But I don't agree with your remarks.
I lost my devoted mum february 2007, as a result of a Doctors error, she had a water infection, and therfore the doctor
took it upon himself to take her off all
her regular medication i.e Heart and water tablets, which she was taking for 20 years and caused her to have massive heart attack, which she had never had!
So I don't think anyone can say someone has had a good innings whatever thats supposed to mean??
Still Greiving..
But I will not leave this matter, and have been following lines of inquiries,
and intend to get justice for my dear mum.
Your a prick !
I doubt anyone one will be bothered to create a memorial site for you, your better off forgotten.
I found it amusing maybe a little too sensitive for some! Death is a serious and sensitive subject but its part of life and life is laughter!!!lighten up people it seems to me as something not to be taken seriously my gran died age 79 smoked her self away... lovely lady miss her dearly like a mum to me but she had a good life and i would never describe her death to be "too soon" its out of our hands lets be honest! when your times up its up!
Your right it is out our hand's but some people find compfort in this website and I dont think it should be made a joke of.
How awful of this complete insensitive idiot, Yes you can say a lot of entries on the Gone too Soon site were "old" but many more are not. It is a great site for people like me who have lost a child, or a loved one to create a site to remember them by. My daughter was 16 and i hate prats like you refering to them as stiffs. Have a little compassion, and grow up i thought you said you were 49 not 9
HOW RUDE OF YOU TO WRIGHT THOSE COMMENTS, YOU EVEN HAD TO NERVE TO INCLUDE PEOPLES NAMES, I HOPE YOU ARE PLEASED AND PROUD OF YOURSELF, TO ME YOU ARE A RUDE INCENSATIVE PRATT
I'll own up Ken, I'm checking out other blogsters as I might have my own, sometime soon. Your other topics are all pleasant enough, even safe, but it only goes to show that there are some subjects that will rile at least a few people occasionally. A***hole and p***k were a bit strong though. My dad died at the ripe old age of 54, now in cricket terms that's not a bad knock, you even get to salute the applause with your raised bat. Point is, nowt really bugs me to retort with heavy expletives, especially death. At 57 I've seen off most of my older relations and laughed in the crem' many times. e.g. my dad's nickname was Spin, and as we stood shaking hands in the garden of remembrance, my old wag of a buddy noticed the white smoke ascending from the furnace chimney and casually remarked, " There's Spin away then " as he waved to the smoke. It depends on how you were brought up I reckon, my old man would've gotten that line in first and probably had many times before.
Losing a loved one is distressing. Doctors are human and they do make mistakes. A daunting career to say the least.
what an idiot. stiffs? How rude are u? Why even look through a memorial website if u havent lost someone. For entertainment?. Well my boys dad is on there, he died at 36. Gone to soon? Or is he in the too old age bracket? My stepdad died afew weeks back, he was 53. Was he too old?..my next door neighbour died this moring must of been in her 70's. Too old?
Well let me tell u something, i think it was too soon for my kids dad and stepdad to die, and maybe that womans family felt it was to sudden and soon for her to die. Dont be so pedantic. No matter what the age, its always too soon to lose someone you love.
hi
i thought id add a little some thing
im sorry to offend
but i literally laughed out loud when i read what the sun writer had said.
i ahve to agreew ith him oops sorry.
i dont think he is aughing at the people that have died at all,
hes laughing at the name of the site and the very od people on there,
i do agree that it seems ironic at 84 and 85 to have gone too soon,
christ how old do they want to be.
be like the movie soon cocoon lol.
im all for web sites thatpeople can leave there feelings on and light candles etc, he was not laughing at that ,it was just the name and the ages thats all can you not see that, i am still laughingto be honest.i bet doris and them golden oldies would be .
well i kind of understand what you're saying, gone 2 soon is for people who did go too soon. i agree there should be another site for people who died naturally of old age. i know people on this site who did go too soon i.e a 3yr old and a 12yr old and i understand that at the moment there isn't another site for people who luckily lived until old age and died naturally so until then there's definately no harm them being on this site!
Looking through a memorial site for kicks? Thats lower than low. Your a perfect example of the losers that grace our world today. I have family members on GTS and let me tell you, at whatever age you lose someone you love it will always be too soon.
I guess you have never suffered the trauma of true grief otherwise you would not have posted such a cruel article.
Did you spare a thought for the families of the deceased you have named? Probably not eh. I doubt those words even exist in your vocabulary. I hope Karma kicks your ass
you should be put down the sewers you disgusting sicko how would you like your loved one made fun of if they had passed away you must have no brains in your wooden head hope you regret saying what you have you have no thought for anyone who is grieving thats how low you stoop.
YOU ARE VILE HOW DARE YOU SPEAK ABOUT PEOPLE'S FAMILIES IT'S A CHEAP NASTY BLOG IF YOU HAD MENTIONED MY FAMILY WELL WELL MR KEN OXELY IT WOULD'VE BEEN A HUGE MISTAKE ON YOUR PART
You are a vile and sick individual how dare you mock anyone whether they be a baby or 100yr old the people on the gone too soon site miss the person or would not be on the site I feel so strongly your remarks and thoughts are very rude so hope nothing happens to you that your loved ones would not have to set up a site for you
You evil person. Can only repeat what the others have said.
what a nasty man you are how on earth can you sleep at night
WOW!!!
WHAT CAN I SAY,,,U REALLY ARE A D**IK
YOU SAY THAT AT A CERTAIN AGE HOW ARE THEY gonetoosoon, WELL AT WHAT AGE WOULD YOU CHOOSE TO LOOSE A LOVED ONE,IF ITS UR MUM DAD NANA GRANDAD ETC & THERE 80+ ID LIKE THEM AROUND ME AS LONG AS POSSIBLE THANK YOU,I TAKE IT YOU HAVE NO LOVED ONES !!!
I can only hope that the person closest to you goes soon,maybe then you will understand what it feels like to lose some one,although I doubt that some one of you calibre has any one close to them at all,after all,who would want to associate to such a cold and inconsiderate person.May you life be totally unhappy.
I have read your blogg and I didnt find it funny, gutter humour what next? Do you think you have written an interesting article? This website has helped lots of people come to terms with their loss,given comfort to many who have found other's who share the same pain. You can never be prepared for the loss of a loved one no matter how old they were. I hope you never lose a child, grandchild, sibling,wife etc. The pain can be unbearable.Did you really use the names of people who have memorial sites, whatever happenned to respect for peoples privacy. The sites are not there for people to poke fun at.
It's an invasion of our privacy.
If you dont like what is out on Gonetoosoon then simply STAY OFF IT!
Why should anyone be left to explain why they use GTS to ignorant people who simpy have no life that they have to cruise a website such as GTS...
I only hope that the families of these people you have named either dont see this bog - as it would devastate some people...or that they do see it and they sue the a*** off you.
There are enough stories out there to fill your trashy paper!!!! Go out and find some real stories and leave innocent people ALONE!!!!
you are actual a complete t****r. how dare you make a joke of death, you should be totally ashamed of yourself. you have obviously never had to go through the pain of losing someone close to you or you dont have any one close to you. what a complete and utter imbecile you are.
i hope the rest of your life is as hard as everyone elses who has to use gts then maybe you might start to think before you speak!!! A**e!
You are a sick b*****d,bet your Mother is well proud of you thats if you have even got one,if you have you sure as hell dont deserve her.I hope you rot in hell!! if you get paid for writing this rubbish,then use the money to pay for you own god dam funeral sad or what,guess you must be to read though the site in the fist place.
you should be ashamed of yourself you sick b*****d. my dad died at a good age but that doesn't mean that he won't be missed. i hope when you die nobody cares enough to make a memorial site for you, YOU HEARTLESS PIG!!! As for newspaper article i use it to wipe my a*** on, it's all its good for. Next time you'll know not to stick your nose in other peoples buissness.
I can only presume your column wasn't generating enough interest on its own merit and you decided to use shock tactics instead.
How despicable to link the people on the site with murderers and rapists. That really is low and inexcusable. My brother and father have GTS sites and although your pathetic ramblings do not distress me they have clearly upset other people. Perhaps people could complain directly to the Press Complaints Commission? Although the sites are in the public domain identification and mocking of individuals may warrant a complaint being upheld.
I think we all need to boycott the sun from now on! The management team are just as bad as this sicko for allowing this article to be published.
You don't deserve to breathe the same air as us and you're a pathetic excuse for a man.
My grandmother died aged 90 many years ago and to me she died too soon.
"She's no longer in my life to share but in my heart she's forever there".
It makes no difference how old a person is when they pass away, they're still loved and missed by those they've left behind, you on the other hand will hopefully pass away a very lonely old man, with no one to remember you.
You're a very sad and sick individual!
hi i did have a little chuckle at the way you put things i do agree that your wrong to mention names, as like it or not folk get seriously upset no matter the age and gone to soon is more about the time for the ones left behind not the ones gone so that fact is wrong you see i have pages and theres about 20 of them for all my family members the youngst being 19days old the oldest 90 and my daughter is there to she was 5 but it feels like yesterday that she left and its like they live somewhere else they arnt gone just somewhere thats not here and its to soon to say goodbye so please give a little compassion couse one day it will b ur family writing u went to soon wotever the age
It is disgusting and disrespectful that you have stooped low enough to name deceased people, just to boost your own pathetic ego. If you really had to state your point, you could have well done so without using names.
You will be grieving yourself one day!
I too am disgusted at your comments on the gonetoosoon site i lost my 4month old grandson at xmas and my sonin law lost his father he was murdered this site brings some form of bearevement to the families that have lost loved ones how dare you write a topic like that and to name names ,dispicable and disgusting
you must have such a cold heart and no- loved ones out there at all. how dare you write those things and to name people too. your just a waste of space, and you obviously lead such a sad pathetic life!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are one sick and disturbed individual. That's all i have to say
i think your little blog is in poor teast your talking about people loved ones.
So this is how you get your kicks in life, taking the mick out of the onces we have loved and lost and we are left behind to grieve. To sit at your computer and as you put it ''GRAVE HOP'' well i think there is nothing worse!!! Have you never lost anyone close to you??? Obviously not!!!
We lost our son to cancer at the age of three after fighting for 15 months. This was the worse and hardest time of our life but yet you think differently. What gives you the right to comment on who or what age they die.
The website was set up for people to share there love and stories and often at times when you think you dont have anyone else to talk too.... there is always someone at the end of the computer.
So if you havent realised yet the website name ''GONE TOO SOON'' is just a name and does not reflect at what age they have or should have died... THICKO
ok so there are loads of memorial sites out there ( wont give names incase this freek wants to have a laugh at them too. Just think what if you lived to 87 and 3 weeks after you first great grandchild is born would people not say you died 'too soon'? and when people die it hurts it leaves a hole in peoples lives and they die before people are ready to accept that so gone too soon might actually not be about age but gone too soon from someones life. I hope for your sake that when you die noone remembers this as i cant see to many candles being lit in your memory, and btw have you thought about checking out all the other billions of sites on the internet rather then a memorial site for kicks?
Ok ok ok ... I understand completely ... You were stuck for a story and had to do it to get the moolah in didn't ya?!
I actually had a two page article printed in the Scottish Sun about the life and death of my daughter (Faith Magee) in March this year, i couldn't do anything other than praise Yvonne for putting the story together and being so sensitive toward my loss. It's such a pity that the same support couldn't be shown by the whole Sun writers team!! I pity the need for you to mock passed angels that have passed too soon for their families that miss them dearly (the penny dropped for ya yet?). There really is so much more to report in the world ... if you have such strong opinions of rapists murders etc ... why don't you try writing about them instead ... I'm sure they'll return your dignity!
I cannot believe that someone could be as heartless, inconsiderate and disrespectful to anothers life and death!!!! How dare you!!! What gives you the right to judge at what age is a 'good innings' as you so inappropriately put it!!!!!
THE AGE A DEAR ONE DEPARTS THIS LIFE IS ALWAYS TOO SOON!!!
Words cannot express my contempt at your written words!!! I only hope that you see the error of this writing when someone you care about a great deal passes to the otherside.
In living hope of your realization, should it ever come to pass, may you be forgiven for your past mistakes. I take pity upon your poor soul and pray that our Great Father will be lenient with you when your time comes to pass.
That's really just sad. How dare you make a joke of what other people have lost. You are not funny and it is cheap and sick minded to write something like that. There is never a right time to lose someone and what right have you to say that there is. I hope you think about what you have worte I also think an apology should be made as it really is out of order
You sad little man !
I am actually lost for words at your attitude and lack of compassion -
And to use words like "pegged it" !!
It doesn't matter at what age someone dies, they are always "gone too soon" to those who love and miss them!
Your A Very Cruel Man Think And Say What You Want But To Use Actual Peoples Names Is Very Low Indeed... Also To Use Phases Like Grave Hopping, Stiffs, Thats Our Loved Ones Your Refering To My 16 Year Old Daughter Who Was Killed By A Drunk-Driver, It Hurts Like Hell Everyday For Us And To Have Our Loved Ones Mocked Like This Is Just Spiteful On Your Part....Lets Hope You Or A Member Of Your Family Never Has To Go Through What Were Going Through And If They Do JUDGEMENT ON YOU...
they may have lived to a good age,but the families of the loved one were obviously not ready to let them go. we all grieve in different ways & for some of us this website is a blessing enabling us to come to terms with the loss of a loved one in our own time.wether they be young or old people have the right to mourn,the loss of a family member is traumatic no matter what age the person may be.sometime's you dont get the chance to say goodbye so G.T.S helps us.
maybe there should be a website for trash like you "not gone soon enough"dont make fun of people's grief it's not funny nether are you.i am a member of G.T.S. i lost a nephew & a niece in two months they were both young.
they may have life a good age but think of
all the rest i lost my first son when i was nearly 7 month pregant and iam disgusted by the way you say they wernt gone to soon
its not funny to be making fun out of peoples greif!!
I would have thought that if you are married for 50/60/ 70 years if you love that person the loss is too soon. To lose someone means that you wont see them again and that is a very hard thing to accept. So Mr Exley, maybe you havnt had the privalege in your life to have loved so much that if they die its obviously too soon (for you)...but maybe in your case you dont feel enough for it to affect you. Maybe one day you may be lucky or unlucky enough to love someone so much that when they die you are totally heartbroken.
I pity you and I feel that you owe an apology to GTS and the wonderful owners of the site and people that belong to the site.
You show absolutely no respect!
sheila
I would have thought that if you are married for 50/60/ 70 years if you love that person the loss is too soon. To lose someone means that you wont see them again and that is a very hard thing to accept. So Mr Exley, maybe you havnt had the privalege in your life to have loved so much that if they die its obviously too soon (for you)...but maybe in your case you dont feel enough for it to affect you. Maybe one day you may be lucky or unlucky enough to love someone so much that when they die you are totally heartbroken.
I pity you and I feel that you owe an apology to GTS and the wonderful owners of the site and people that belong to the site.
You show absolutely no respect!
sheila
I would have thought that if you are married for 50/60/ 70 years if you love that person the loss is too soon. To lose someone means that you wont see them again and that is a very hard thing to accept. So Mr Exley, maybe you havnt had the privalege in your life to have loved so much that if they die its obviously too soon (for you)...but maybe in your case you dont feel enough for it to affect you. Maybe one day you may be lucky or unlucky enough to love someone so much that when they die you are totally heartbroken.
I pity you and I feel that you owe an apology to GTS and the wonderful owners of the site and people that belong to the site.
You show absolutely no respect!
sheila
HE WRITES FOR THE SUN WHAT MORE CAN I SAY
Should lose his job for his comments,no consideration for the families and friends who are deeply missing their loved ones. Have recently lost our daughter and find GTS a help in trying to deal with our grief.
if you botherd to have a good look at the site you would realise that there are people ov all ages on there.a death ov a loved one is devestating to a family no matter what age they are.i think u should read at least 10 ov the tributes ov a varied age range,then come back and see if u have the same opinion.you idiot.
if you botherd to have a good look at the site you would realise that there are people ov all ages on there.a death ov a loved one is devestating to a family no matter what age they are.i think u should read at least 10 ov the tributes ov a varied age range,then come back and see if u have the same opinion.you idiot.
another sicko just like henry headcase
Horrible Creature!!!!
Writes for the sun aswell, so its expected for me!
Well, I have a question for you, having just lost my father july 26th. Do you have parents? Were you put up for adoption and did you spend your whole life wishing someone wanted you? Is this your way making yourself feel better by mocking people that did have loved ones that touched their lifes with so much love that they mourn their loss at any age. My dad isn't on that site and was 82 but I still wish he could have lived alot longer!!!!!!
How unbeleivably insensitive can you be? Those people you are using to display what you think is humour are someone's loved ones. I know from experience after losing grandparents at the age of 65, 69 and 72, all were not expected deaths and it hurt like hell. In your opinon maybe they had had their time and hadn't gone to soon at all, but in my opinion they had gone to soon. When it is your own loved one's it's always too soon for them to die - one of the most common things you hear people say after the death of a loved one is "I wish I'd just had one more day". When that is the wish of so many people, how can you say that their loved ones were gone too soon?
I am an intellectual individual and understand that these blogs are publisehed to create a stir and get people on her posting messages, however, pick your subject carefully, this is far to disrespectful to be using as a tool to create a debate about.
You seem to me to be the type of person that would be unfaltered by what anyone thinks of you. The sort of person that dosnt care less about anyones feelings anyway.
Personally I wouldnt read the trash you write I am more concerned about the hurt you have caused.
I pity you...maybe you should get a proper life and start caring for others eh
sheila
you heartless brainless zombie of a boy...well your no man in the adult sense of the word,you worthless lowlife creep.my darling son nicky passed away,suddenly and tragically just six week before his 21st birthday...gts helped myself,my daughter and other family members and friends have a very special outlet for our grief.how dare you undermine such a worthwhile, comforting and valued site?hope you die as you live.....old.bitter.sick,twisted....and most importantly ...very lonely old {preferably not too much older than you are now] man. you give a whole new meaning to the word sicko.
I think that blog was uncalled for.Especially using elderly peoples names.How will there loved ones feel reading this?
I have both my grans on GTS both died at 71 and if you used either of there names i would literally kill you!!
It's called Gone Too Soon beauce it's never someone's time to go they will be missed by the family.So would you say to your loved one,your old enough it's about time you died?????
Don't think so!
I hope you dont have to use GTS in the future.If your that against the name them manke your own site up and post this blog and see how many members you get!!!
my mum died at 58 and it was certainly too soon for me so next time your bored looking for something to write about how about writing something thats true that would be a change for the sun newspaper!